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April 26th, 2017
by Diane

April Monthly Activities

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Breaking through Expectation

  • This month work on creating a list of all the expectations you have for yourself, for others and for circumstances.  We will call this your Book of Rules. Write this down for yourself over the course of a couple weeks. Catch yourself when you are expecting something from a family member, a co-worker or a friend. Write these down.  Catch yourself when are let down or angry because something did not happen exactly as you had wanted it to.
  • Go through your list and ask yourself what your true motivation or thought process was behind the expectation. Is this expectation an unconscious rule you hold in your mind? Was there something you wanted? Could you have asked, made a request? What did you potentially miss out on by not having a circumstantial expectation met?
  • Examine your list of expectations and rules and see if you can write a new Book of Rules that encourage you to let go of your most frequent expectations. For example:
    1. I will remember to say I love you to my partner each day. (Instead of,  “my partner should say I love you to me more often”).
    2. When it rains I get to snuggle in bed and read a good book. (Instead of complaining about the rain ruining your plans)
    3. I will make a request that we spend a date night together each month. (Instead of being angry because your partner never asks you to spend time alone away from the hustle and bustle of your daily lives)
    4. I complement my co-workers when they do great work. (Instead of, “No one ever compliments my hard work.”)
    5. Post your new “Rules” somewhere you can see them and review daily.

 

March 19th, 2017
by Diane

March Monthly Activities

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  1. Pick a FEAR. Make a list of all the things you are afraid of, that hold you back form doing things or accomplishing a dream.
  2. After you have made the list pick one item. Create an action plan of steps on how you are going to overcome and move into action one step at a time.
  3. Enroll an accountability partner to help you complete each step. Set times and deadlines for each step and move into action.

Here are few helpful strategies to help “train your brain” to take risks and make new choices:

  • Write down all of the negative consequences for NOT taking the risk or making a change.
  • Write down a list of all of the positives that could come from taking the risk, even if you make a few mistakes along the way.
  • Make a list of all the skills, talents and expertise you DO have – focus on all your past learning and trust yourself that you can continue to learn and grow.
  • Be realistic about what could go wrong. We over-estimate the impact of our mistakes. My Father has a great story about a man who worked for a large corporation. He made a $34 Million dollar mistake for his company. He was called into the CEO’s office and as he walked through the door he thought he was about to loose his job. Instead he was given a promotion. His boss said to him, “We have too much invested in your learning curve to let you go.” The gentlemen went on to have an extremely successful career.
  • Let go of what other’s think. We spend too much time worrying about what others think and believe. How does what others believe impact your life? It does not unless YOU let it.
  • Set an intention and a positive vision for stepping into risk. Then trust the process.
  • Take small steps, take one day at a time and know you can always make a new choice.
February 15th, 2017
by Diane

February Monthly Activities

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  1. Write a letter of gratitude to someone, someone who has played a really big positive role in your life who have never really thanked. Then, either call or visit and read them the letter.
  2. Volunteer at least for one day this month. Volunteering is a fantastic to show appreciation for all that YOU have in your life and it shows appreciation for those you are volunteering for. Studies have shown that people who volunteer have more a healthier and more positive, grateful attitude toward life.
January 17th, 2017
by Diane

January Monthly Activities

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I. Release an old story from the past.

Consider an Old Story you are ready to let go of. First think of the lesson you learned from the experience and write that down.  Then write all of the details from the old story you are releasing.  Find an old can, place the pages of the old story in the can and burn them.  Say goodbye and watch the story drift away in the smoke.  Repeat the lesson you learned in present tense language.

II. Write your Vision for the coming year.

This can be 2 to 5 sentences, all written in present tense stating how you would like your life, your work, your relationships and your environment to FEEL.  This vision statement is a place to get clear on the values and priorities that are of most importance to you this year.  Share your Vision Statement with me on Facebook!  I will be sharing mine. Include:

  • What is possible this year? What do you aspire to?
  • What inspires you?
  • What values and priorities are most important to you?

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